The Emperor Can’t Rule His Own Home


“For this deed of the queen shall come abroad unto all women, so that they shall despise their husbands in their eyes, when it shall be reported, The king Ahasuerus commanded Vashti the queen to be brought in before him, but she came not. If it please the king, let there go a royal commandment from him, and let it be written among the laws of the Persians and the Medes, that it be not altered, That Vashti come no more before king Ahasuerus; and let the king give her royal estate unto another that is better than she. And when the king's decree which he shall make shall be published throughout all his empire, (for it is great,) all the wives shall give to their husbands honour, both to great and small. And the saying pleased the king and the princes; and the king did according to the word of Memucan: For he sent letters into all the king's provinces, into every province according to the writing thereof, and to every people after their language, that every man should bear rule in his own house, and that it should be published according to the language of every people.” (Esther 1:17+19+20 to 23).


This is the only place we find the word empire in the bible. King Ahasuerus was emperor of the Media-Persian empire that ruled the world – 127 provinces. They had conquered the first empire of Babylon, the head of gold, and now the arms and breast of silver ruled the world. – (Daan.2:39).


(vs.22) sums up this first chapter of Esther. “That everyman should bear rule in his own house.” This is not only the word of the wise man Memucan but it is the wisdom of the word of God. God used the example of Emperor Ahasuerus, a world ruler to show us that a man must first be king of his own castle before he can be king of the world and that wives must be in submission to their husbands so that he can rule. “Wives submit yourselves unto our own husbands, as unto the Lord.” (Eph.5:22.


In (I Tim.3:4-5) it says about a pastor – “One that ruleth well his own house, having his children in subjection with all gravity: for if a man know not how to rule his own house, how shall he take care of the church of God.” Both our church leaders and our political leaders are failing in this area and it is destroying the foundations of America.


This rebellion in our homes with wives who will not obey their husbands is helping greatly to destroy our nation. We need to return to doing God’s word in the home. The king divorced Vashti, his disobedient wife, and I’m convinced this is one of the greatest underlining cause of a high divorce rate in our country. We have far too many disobedient wives who are following the Jezebel Spirit. Remember Jezebel, the wicked bossy queen of Israel, who in truth ruled the kingdom from behind the scenes. Instead of King Ahab ruling. Jezebel ruled and Ahab was nothing but a wimp. (Who’s the boss in your home?)


The king passed a wise law throughout his empire that wives must obey their husbands and allow him to rule his own house. It would be the downfall to the empire if the homes were destroyed by this Vashti and Jezebel spirit of disobedient wives. The emperor ruled the world and yet couldn’t rule his own house.


This is a major cause of the current American Empire. Women are usurping their husband’s authority in the home and not letting him be king of his own castle. The homes in America are falling apart and how the homes go, the nation goes – because the home is the building block of society. We are losing our republic and becoming an empire because of it. Rebellion and disorder in the home breeds rebellion and disorder in the nation and Satan thrives on this. Disobedient wives are helping greatly to destroy our republic and is bringing in a full-fledged empire. If God’s word on rulers is despised then God will see to it that we receive an evil ruler who will not be elected by the people but will be a beastly emperor (Dan.7). Our nation is falling apart because of broken homes and soon it will be said of U.S.BabylonU.S.A. is fallen- is fallen. Empires and disobedient wives go together in the bible.


How many married people have made an oath to God in their marriage vows to live together til death do they part and then get a divorce and break their oath. God will not let this great sin go unanswered – judgment is coming. Take heed to this beautiful poem my wife wrote entitled –


For better or for worse – so goes this oft said verse.

This comment is too terse – reality lies within this verse

United in matrimony – all aglow – where did all those precious moments go

Divorce only separates two – God has joined he and you

Society can never replace – memories and yesterday cannot be erased


As it is written in (Mt.19:6) “What therefore God has joined together, let no man put asunder.”


In (Chap.2) of Esther, wicked Haman arrives on the scene and tries to kill all the Jews in the world. He was the first Hitler in the world. Haman is a type of antichrist. He arrives on the scene in (ch.2) just after the disobedient wife in (Ch.1) are you listening? Will the antichrist beast arrive next on the scene, after Satan has paved the way with the wicked Vashti spirit. Keep watching, for the beast will come upon a disobedient people.


Chaos in the home and divorce is the result of not following God’s word on the family. The husband is to rule the home and the wife is to be in submission to him. “For the husband is the head of the wife.” (Eph.5:23). Then and only then can they rule their own children well. Take heed to God’s order in the home. Refusal to obey God’s word can have tragic consequences. Ladies, do you want your husband to love you? Then obey him. Don’t fight against his authority. Don’t correct him and belittle him in front of your children and in public. Obey him even when he’s wrong. (The boss is always right – even when he’s wrong). If you constantly rebel against his authority, it will cause him to dislike you.


Yes, each man is to be king in his own castle and the wise wife, like Memucan, will realize the truth of God’s word and strive to make her husband a great king and help him rule the home and not follow the evil spirit of Vashti in the world today. If you want to be treated like a queen then treat your husband like a king.


Emperor Ahasuerus held a six months banquet with all the rulers of the countries he ruled over. The banquet was for pride. To show the world the wealth and luxury of the Persian Empire. This big feast, with the eyes of the world upon him, became the setting for marriage trouble between him and the queen. Her rebellion was not done in private but in the most public way, a bad example to the whole world. And this is the same basic root problem between husbands and wives today – rule and obedience to rule.


Never, never use your husband’s love for you to get your own selfish way. Never use sex to rule over your husbands either. The Lord Jesus rules through the husband – “Christ is the head of the man.”


Queen Vashti was to do her appointed job as queen Elizabeth is to do today in England. She was to show off her beauty and crown jewels to the people. She knew what a very important time this was for her husband. With the eyes of the world upon her, she chose to refuse her husband and humiliate him publicly. It was the worst possible time to be disobedient. She refused and that was the reason for her divorce.


Women today won’t even say in their marriage vows, “Love and honor and obey him” - that wives have said centuries. The modern-day Vashti’s, the E.R.A. crowd – (Not equal rights amendment) but Eve rules Adam crowd. In (Gen.3:16) it is written – “And thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee.”


Now contrast disobedient Vashti with obedient Esther who took her place as queen. In (Est.2:20) it is written – “For Esther did the commandments of Mordecai, like as when she was brought up with him.” Her uncle praised her and she was an obedient girl and woman and so the king chose her.


It is written in (Prov.19:13) “A foolish son is the calamity of his father: and the contentions of a wife are a continual dropping.” A tragic situation. A husband who has a foolish son and a contentious wife who continued on like the rain. You can imagine what kind of home he lived in. Contentious means – rivalry, competition-contender. She’s always in competition and contending with him for the headship of the home and in so doing this, she becomes quarrelsome and argumentative. She causes arguments and quarrels with her husband because she will not obey. She wants to be the boss. She wants to wear the pants.


(Prov.21:9) says, “It is better to dwell in a corner of a housetop, than with a brawling woman in a wide house.” Do you see queen Vashti here in her mansion. It’s better to have a wife with a meek and quiet spirit in a poor, humble house than to have a brawling woman in a big house. See the man find the attic at the top of the house or the barn or workshop to hide from her mouth.


In (I Pet.3:1-6) God’s word tells the saved, Christian women how to act at home. In subjection with “A meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price.” It’s not her outward adornment that makes a happy, Godly home, but her inward adorning, that comes of the Holy Spirit. She’s not quarrelsome or argumentative – she’s quiet. This is God’s wisdom for a young man contemplating marriage. That he not look just on the outward appearance but the inward and not pick a bossy, loud woman for a wife. When you find her she’s a ruby or a pearl of great price.


Remember, the Persians didn’t have benefit of God’s word, but they could see this wisdom anyway. We have both the Old Testament and the New Testament today and there’s no excuse. Memucan shows the king what would be the bad consequences of the queens disobedience if it were passed by and not acted upon. That it would embolden other wives to disobey their husbands worldwide. Her bad example would have a bad influence upon all the families in the empire. They would also “Scorn to obey their husbands.”


When wives despise their husbands, whom they ought to reverence and contend for dominion over him instead of being in subjection to him – there is continual grief, confusion, chaos and disorder in the home and will probably end in divorce.


She also shows the children by her actions that they may disobey father also. Wives should send the children to their father to get permission as it helps to increase his authority in the home. It shows that daddy is the boss. Following God’s word between husbands and wives will bring order and happiness in the family. Each man – king of his castle. Dad’s the chairman of the house. His throne is his lazy-boy and he rules from there and it’s his alone.


And the husband of a big mouthed, bossy woman will many times be a meek and quiet man for she rules the castle and he’s in subjection to her. Cowardly preachers have quit preaching this truth. They know that women mostly rule the home and control the purse and she will refuse to put money in the offering if he preaches the truth. He’s a money preacher and his ministry is for sale.


It is written in (I Tim.2:11-12) “Let the woman learn in silence with all subjection. But I suffer not a woman to teach, nor a usurp authority over the man, but to be in silence.” And this is what is taking place in the <